Matchmakers are not wizards and we do not fulfill wishes on demand.
To apply to matchmakers is not the same thing as going, for example, to the supermarket : if you buy a thing you do not like, you can either return it back or give it somebody as a present. You cannot treat a woman like this. The goal of matchmakers is to expand the possibilities of single people by organizing as many visits as possible, and afterwards they must act by themselves.
First, we talk, test people, try to understand how much the person is adequate in their desires and whether the solution is possible. Only after this we proceed to cooperation.
Both man and woman have to pay for our services but in different equivalents.
For example, men do not need a photo session. Yet a good photo session for a lady is an opportunity to interest as many men as possible, to make friends with them and to see them in real life.
The man pays attention to genes, hormones, pheromones and age.
They always look at the photo of the lady carefully, while the women sometimes do not even look at all the photos of the man. Instead they pay attention to education, age and career of a man whil ehis appearance can be absolutely unattractive.
Men do not choose in that way. The first thing they look at in appearance is the ratio of the waist to the hips. The second is the breast.
However, a man in his late 40s searches for a woman who would motivate and inspire him to feat. This explains the men’s interest in ladies who can be 15-20 years younger.
All women want a smart, strong in spirit and rich man. That is an alpha male not a milksop who does not know how to woo a woman.
The courtship is absolutely necessary to answer the question whether the man will help the woman fulfill the main mission entrusted to her by God. Therefore, there is nothing strange in the materialism of girls. So, when men wonder if there are beautiful but not mercenary woman, the answer is obvious: "Yes, there are. She gave birth to you."
And this is quite normal. After all, men do not often understand how hard it is to be a woman and how heavy is a karmic load hanging around her neck. That's why, it sometimes seems that women are mercenary or self-interested and they can not change themselves.
Firstly, physiological characteristics of a female mean that a woman needs much more comfort than a man in order to have a normal existence and fulfill her gender duties - to give birth and raise a child. She needs material means and certain comfort conditions - even the minimal ones: a roof over her head, hot water, normal food and so on. When a woman is nurturing a child, her ability to provide herself is reduced – it means she needs some external help.
To see an analogy, let's look at the "married couple" of blackbirds. First they meet, build their nest together. Then the blackbird female lays egg and warms them with her body. The blackbird male digs the ground with the beak, finds and brings the most delicious worms to his partner while she is hatching eggs.
The modern woman has the same instincts - she also needs resources to accomplish her procreation function.
A man may live in Spartan conditions at worst but a woman needs warm clothes and personal care items, etc. For example, do you know why the most yachtsmen are men? That is because the life on the yacht places certain restrictions on the available comfort. Most men living on the water suffer from the fact that it is extremely difficult to find a woman who will agree to share with him such a lifestyle - everyone needs comfort and coziness.
Now some thoughts about sex. Women like sex more than men. But their sex is connected biologically with fears – the fear of becoming pregnant, the fear of losing fertility due to illness. If a woman loses such a function, unlike a man, her mental health is seriously affected. It is a well-known fact that if your house is not filled with the children's laughter untill you are forty, then it becomes filled with nightmares.
So it is easy to explain such woman's behavior, if you understand that her whole life revolves around the childbearing function. Understand and cherish your women, men. After all, she lives for the sake of two things - to give her beloved a healthy baby and to fill the house with joy and love.
With best regards,
IMS ‘Wife Ukraine’ team
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