We got this question a few times from the couple who found each other through our service. They can’t find the answer by themselves. We want to share this story with you and hopefully, it will give you the answer. We can’t write the real names so let’s call them Sofiya and Christof.
A just married couple started their life path by living together with the mother of the husband. In the beginning, the mother was nice, hospitable, polite, and open but after some time the relationship with the daughter-in-law Sofiya and later with her son started to spoil. Although there were no obvious reasons for that.
The tension between the mother and Sofiya was increasing bit by bit day by day.
The mother worried for her son a lot; she wanted to be the main woman in his life and to be the closer adviser in his family affairs. When the young couple didn’t listen to his mother’s advice, she started to get angry and blamed Sofiya for everything. She used to say that sooner or later Sofiya was going to leave Christopher because they had different life visions and he would suffer alone. And whenever the daughter-in-law wanted to talk to the mother and clarify everything, the mother explained her attitude through her strong and eternal love for her son which Sofiya will never have towards Christof.
Christof suffered a lot too since the two most important women in his life couldn’t find a common language. But there is a solution for such situations and the recipe is easy.
First, don’t live in the same house with your parents (for sure, health reasons are an exception).
Second, if the mother is jealous of her son’s wife then their communication should be limited. There is no need to give the mother extra worries by complaining about the wife. In that way, both women will feel calmer and balanced.
So which words should the man tell to the mother and the wife since he loves both of them?
It’s simple! To the mother, the man should tell her that he loves her the most and only her, and with the wife he has intimate relationships. Of course, the mother will never lift this question in front of her daughter-in-law to get some proof.
And to the wife, the man should say that he loves her and only HER!
- And what about your mother? – the wife may ask.
- It’s my mother. I love her because she is my mother.
This is the best way that both women are happy and satisfied, the same as the man together with them. And there is no need to spend often much time altogether. Visit the mother when you can, and spend time with her while the wife is busy with her things. And the rest of the time enjoy your family life and make your relationships stronger and be grateful that between millions of women, you met the right one who makes you happy in bed, daily routine, and in life!
We have a good saying in Ukraine: there can't be an order in the kitchen with two housewives.
Best regards,
IMS ‘Wife Ukraine’ team
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